Sheltering One's Child

This dreadful topic has come up in my life yet again...the idea that "sheltering" ones child is somehow a bad thing. Why is being a buffer between your child and the negative things that happen in the world so horrible? Saying that my children need to have he experience of dealing with bullies and negative peer pressure in order to learn about the "real world" makes about as much sense as saying they need to be handed a loaded gun to teach them that guns are dangerous. I wouldn't starve my children to teach them that the world is full of people who don't have enough food. I wouldn't throw them in the lake to teach them about drowning. I wouldn't let them play in traffic to teach them how dangerous cars are. Most parents would not *purposely* put their children in harms way in order to "teach them a valuable lesson", so why do so many parents think it is acceptable to purposely put children in situations where they are in danger of being teased, ridiculed, beaten up, or otherwise harmed by other children in order to teach them that the world has nasty, mean people in it? I just don't get it.

I'm a PARENT. It's MY JOB to protect my children from harm. To do otherwise would, under different circumstances, be considered neglectful or abusive. If one were to suggest that parents should put their children in situations where they were in danger of the same treatment from an adult, most parents would be outraged, and rightly so, but in the case of schoolyard behavior parents are willing to accept the potential harm to their child because it's "normal".

Just because most adults in our society managed to survive the kind of pressure and abuse that is so much a part of the school experience does not mean it's OKAY! People need to get over this idea that just because they were forced to endure something and "turned out okay" that that somehow makes it acceptable to continue forcing the next generation to endure the same thing. It's reprehensible.